I know that I have felt like giving up at least once in my marriage. We
all need encouragement! Some may be considering divorce others just need
empathy and yet another group needs to hear the experiences of other women and
learn from them.
In
the last post, I asked a few women how they handled major downtime in their
marriage, click here to view it.
The responses are encouraging and would certainly give hope to some
wives out there. Please don’t give up on your marriage. Settle it on your
knees. God is still in the business of answering prayers.
So, we continue from where we stopped.
Have you ever reached a point when you felt
like quitting your marriage? How did you handle it?
Seriously speaking for the past 11
years I have never had any reason to think of quitting, rather thinking
of how it can get better.
Showing
that you care irrespective of the situation. Always trust your spouse because
that's the bed rock to a lasting home. Never allow your kids take his place as
your better part. Women also need to listen more and talk less.
Mrs
E.O (I call her sisi J)
Oh
wow!...
It's
a very touchy subject and a lot of women are shamed of speaking about it.
Personally,
as far as there's no domestic violence, then it can be worked on...emotional
violence is also a silent killer and leads to depression and loss of
self-worth.
In
all, I would advise for people to look deep within and if the cons outweigh the
pros, then it's time to take your bags and move.
Marriage
itself is not to be managed always...there should be some slacks and many
moments of "enjoyment" or bliss (for lack of a better description).
I
am a Christian but DO NOT subscribe to living in pains all because of the
church, or what people will say or seeming moral values.
Only
the living praise God and takes care of a home.
Mrs
O.
Hmmm....
I believe the best way to handle all situations is on your knees with absolute
faith. Also as a Catholic, I would naturally say divorce is not an option
except in the exceptions as provided by the Church.
I
also advise that common sense should prevail in cases where the defaulting
partner has never or is no longer reasoning along sane lines....
Mrs
N.O
The
earlier stage of my marriage, waiting upon God for the fruit of the womb, both
parents were Muslims, we are Christians. Pressures from both sides. I felt my
husband was not taking the issue serious. He was always saying don't worry the
Lord is able to do it. Though he was more matured in
faith.
Counseling,
and more involvement in church activities to some extent kept my mind off the
issue at hand. Three years later, God did
it!
A
successful marriage and a happy home is not just a wish but you must be
determined, be very prayerful, settle with God on your knees, trust God and you
can't take away submission from the ingredients / materials you need to build a
happy home. Prov 31:12, 1 Peter 3:4-5, Eph 5:22.
Mrs
A.B.
For
some of us, this is the encouragement we need, however there are some
challenges that go beyond this. If you are in a physically abusive marriage
please don’t keep quiet!
Some
might say I will endure because of my children.
Guess
what? Only the living can take care of these children!
Don’t
let him kill you or damage part of your body before you speak out. Seek
professional help. If you are in Lagos there is a toll-free line you can call
to report this. A Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team exists under the
Lagos State Ministry of Justice. They will come to your aid. You can also seek counselling in your local church and marriage counselors. Ensure you seek help from qualified professionals.
It’s
a wrap…
Thank
you for staying tuned.
I
will be writing about in-laws soon. Please watch this space.
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