Hello Ladiesphere fam....
I heard a lot of stories these past few weeks that got me thinking seriously.
A whole lot of marriages are in distress these days, many didn't even smell the sixth month after the wedding before a separation. I dare not judge anyone because I do not know their stories. This is not to say I am in support of divorce but honestly, people have very touching stories to tell.
I however came across something very helpful and as is my default setting to always share... I shall share with you. I am still learning too o cos marriage is indeed a journey...
Please note that this is not a sermon, they are just facts that we can totally relate with.
# There is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of another woman competing for the attention and affection of her husband. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.
# Marriage flourishes when the couple works together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping scores. Its really not a competition between two people so be happy for yourselves and encourage one another. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.Good marriages don't just happen. They are a product of hard work.
# Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.
# Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. The grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.
# When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and Honor that every wife hungers for.
# A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a prefect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and Jesus at the center of it all. This doesn't mean we should embrace mediocrity o!
# Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer. We cannot overemphasize the importance of prayers.
# The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.
# Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse yours spouse's trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.
# Beware of marital advise from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advise may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.
# Wife, Don't underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don't let the devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence and aspirations. Let God use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.
I do hope we pick one or two things from this.